Public Displays of Affection
NO PDA!
As one of my RA's notably put it (I later borrowed from him when I became an RA), "All clothing should remain in place. And it's no excuse if s/he shows up naked."
LAN: Brief hugging is acceptable, leading to the well-circulated joke "10 seconds and you're pregnant!" Three-second close-mouth kissing is also acceptable. In 06.1 the standard "It's not PDA if a mother can do it to a child without it being incest" was popularized by Molly Brean and circulated among the students.
The rule is possibly the result of arguably over-the-top behavior at Lancaster in 1985, but may have evolved independently at multiple sites over time.
In 2001, a list of "Don'ts" featured "No guys on girl halls or girls on guy halls". Seizing on the double negative, students claimed that this rule would be violated if there was a guys hall that didn't have a girl on it or a girls hall that didn't have a guy on it. The wording of this rule was soon changed.
---Actually, at least at Lancaster, two of the actions that can lead to expulsion are still "No males on female halls," and "No females on male halls." All the other actions are listed as verbs.
In 2004, RAs began a serious PDA crackdown, especially at the dances, repeatedly separating slow-dancers and grinders of any sex combination.
LOS: As of 2004, there was no intertwining of anyone's legs. Technically, that was breaking rules. Also - holding hands was okay. Pecks were okay. Pecks on the mouth could not last longer than half a second. No making out. Hands must stay in "appropriate" places (this includes not grabbing asses while dancing). Freaking was not okay. Same sex grinding was fine. I saw most of these rules broken in session 2.
Also, these rules were not so well enforced, considering most of the RAs proceeded to break them all themselves.
In LAN of 05.1, the MIND class girls were collectively busted for PDA. [Cortese hall]
At Carsilse 05.1 It was enforced by half the RAs and the other half didnt care. They did allow making out during Stairways to Heaven.
As of CAR 05.2, nothing besides hand holding is accepted. NOTHING.
At KNE(Hawaii) 05.2, any slow dancing and most grinding is fine. No kissing, though most could pull off a 3-second closed mouth. Hand holding, arms around each other, etc, fine. Hickies, not, as was proved by one couple, who together ended up with 20-something. (and managed to convince some of the more gulible people that they were bruises from rocks they had gotten while bodyboarding. It was quite funny, actually. -TM)
LOU 04.1, the RA that was called the "makeout nazi" was duct taped to a lamp post after winning the privilege on casino night while couples lined up to make out in front of him. Same PDA rules as usual.
LOU 04.2~The "no PDA" rule was enforced pretty much all the time, except at dances, where nobody seemed to care if you were making out or grinding.
LOU 05.1,2~There was basically no grinding at dances. I think this was more because people didn't want to than that it was prohibited. Sadly grass orgies were prohibited. In fact, CTY'ers weren't even allowed to lie down seperatly on the grass. Enforcement varied from person to person.
LAN as of 06.1, there were new PDA rules and they were enforced. New rules included: No holding hands, no linking arms, no hugging for more than 3 seconds, no open mouth kissing, no grinding, no slow dancing less than half a foot apart (a.k.a "Six Inches!", and "keeping hands above the equator"). The more... absurd of the rules were not enforced as much, such as hand holding and linking arms- thus creating the chance of the "PDA Chain" as first formed on the first day of CTY by Charlotte's hall by holding hands and/or linking arms and forming a chain. However, half (or more) of the RAs didn't enforce these rules, and hand-holding was allowed again (although it was not announced to the students, and the staff didn't find out for quite a while either) after a call to JHU, made after one student petitioned (Molly Brean) the administration for the rule to be changed.
At Carlisle 06.1/.2, the before the last dance it was announced that anycouple "inaproprietly or suggestivly" dancing would be put into time out, 5 minutes for the first hour, 15 for the second hour and the rest of the dance if after 10:00. This rule was enforced depending on the RA. Some couples/4somes/6somes were warned repeatedly and not put in the penalty box while some couples where never warned and put in the penalty box right away. Being in the penalty box gts you both time out AND an official wright up, so that there is a note of it in your file.
At Baltimore 05.1, ANY PDA set off an alarm for RA's, they woudl come and ask your names and then call your parents.
Baltimore 06.1, more lenient. All RA's turned the other way, as in a form of "i didn't see it so it didn't happen" usually makouts happened at the dances.
Loyola Marymount University 06.2 people of the different sex can not lie on the ground together in close proximity.
At LOU 06.1,2, no lying on the grass fully reclined or, as was the common joke, you'll be making CTY babies. However, RAs would deliberately turn away when they saw couples making out.
At SAR 06.1, there was no lying on the grass 'on top' of each other. Anything else was either accepted or ignored by the RA's as long as when grinding or slowdancing, you could 'see the light'.
CAR.06.2: Some RAs (Annie, for one) were pretty lax on the whole PDA thing. Others, (Matt, for example) were notorious for busting up couples who were doing absolutely nothing. With the exception of the last Meet Market and the last dance, you could pretty much count on being flashlighted... unless, of course, you're me. But anyway, the grinding rule had the same effect second session as first. The grind line at the first dance didn't get busted, neither did some of the couples, however, girls on my hall came in talking about the "cool-off room" after one dance.